Where Are You Failing?
What to Do if Things Aren't
Going Your Way

(c) 2007-2008 Mike Brescia

Assume responsibility - then you are in control

Most people don't even realize that they are having a constant conversation with themselves.

You do it all day long, too.

We all do.

It's not just mental pictures and movies we see in our mind's eye--or with our actual eyes. There's an inner dialog going on constantly about our thoughts, opinions and ideas about those images we see. We constantly talk to ourselves about the physical and emotional feelings we get, too.

Whether you are aware of it or not, you are doing this all day long.

For example, if you are someone who is always cracking jokes or who is told often that you have a "good sense of humor," it's not just on the outside that you're funny. You are having humorous conversations in your head all the time. You "see" the humorous side of life.

But if you are depressed or angry or afraid of a lot of things, if you are nervous and stressed out, it's all in how you communicate with yourself... your non-stop stream of mental movies and inner dialog is the biggest reason for your negative/disempowering emotions.

I hear from new clients all the time, "I can't help the way I feel. It's not my fault... if my boss would just..."

"If my wife, kids, parents would only do X, then I'd feel better."

"If someone would just listen to me, I'd be more successful at X."

"I can never get a break."

"I'm surrounded by idiots. It's no wonder I can't get anything done."

"Everyone is always sabotaging my efforts."

Totally controlled by others.

See, by and large, once you are past the age of 15 and in some cases, 18-20, all your achievements and failures are 100% your fault. Because no one can control what you say to yourself but you.

Bill Gates was a billionaire by the time he was 31. He dropped out of college even though his parents didn't want him to.

Tiger Woods' dad made him practice, but that didn't ensure he'd be anything but pretty good. Lots of parents push their kids. But most people push back, experiencing only anxiety from it.

To the exact same situations, one person reacts with depression ("It's over now, I'll never make it."), another person reacts with anger ("It's their fault!"), and yet another person responds with hope and optimism ("Well, you can't win 'em all. I'll do better next time.").

It's not what happens to you, dude or dudette, it's how you see what happens to you and around you, and how you handle it.

So if things are not going your way in one or more areas of life, to point fingers anywhere but to yourself is to be guaranteed to keep getting more of the same.

That's a lock.

The way you see life now is the same way you've looked at it for years. Because that self talk that's been in your head for years has been shaping your view of your world all that time. So if you want some circumstances or some emotional patterns to change, the only way it will happen is to examine your beliefs and attitudes surrounding the underlying issues, and you must change your self-talk. Otherwise...

Look at the 22 mental patterns shown on the home page at Think Right Now and filter your beliefs and attitudes in any of the "problem" areas of your life through those patterns and I guarantee you'll have a major "Aha!" moment... and you'll be open to doing what you need to do to get different results.

If you don't have that "Aha!"? Well...then you're pretty hopeless and you're going to be experiencing a lot more pain, anger, frustration and depression.

Where you are failing, take responsibility. Change your inner affirmations (your beliefs) Then and only then can you take control.

Then you can start to develop superpowers even where there is none now.

Love,
Mike